If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all. I remember seeing that phrase on a school bulletin board back in elementary school, and since then I’ve tried to abide by those words. I made it a point (I’ve not always done this, but I try) to not bad-mouth people, to give people the benefit of the doubt, and to say only positive things about people. . .EXCEPT about one particular person. . . ME!
My husband pointed this out and my kids have vouched for it as well: “Yeah, mom, you are always putting yourself down.” Yikes! That was a wake up call. It was not an example that I wanted to set for my children.
But it was true, “I look awful,” “I hate what I look like in photos,” I’m so fat,” “I hate my teeth.” These are just some of the things I say on a regularly basis.
If I had said anything like this to one of my friends, they probably wouldn’t be my friends anymore. So, why do I think it’s okay to say this about myself?!?!
This week’s Healthy Habit is for me as much as it is for anyone else. I will make a concerted effort NOT to say anything negative, even it’s as simple as “I feel like crap” because by saying these words, I am only reinforcing the negative. I will be kind to myself. I am all about positive reinforcement, so this week, DOGGONE IT, I will be nice to me. After all, what you think about (AND SAY), you bring about.